How Long Should Grief Last?

Follow me on…Have you ever thought or said this about a friend or relative who is “taking too long,” to grieve a loss: “It’s been a long time and she’s still grieving. Shouldn’t she be over it by now?” Anyone who has experienced a traumatic loss will tell you that there is no set time […]

Fiction Improv 2: Golden Anniversary

Follow me on…FICTION IMPROV 2.0: Golden Anniversary Note: After I receive random words, names, occupations, and situation from my Facebook Peeps for a fiction improv, I let the mix stew for a few days. The words often will suggest the mood or tone for the piece. In this case, the piece took on a decidedly […]

A Baby Named Michelle

Follow me on…Our daughter Michelle Lynn Pence was born on Monday June 1, 1987. She died exactly one week later, on Monday, June 8th. This would have been her 28th birthday. I am re-posting the story I wrote about our experience with Michelle both to remember her and as an encouragement to anyone who is hurting. […]

10 Things NOT to Say or Do to Bereaved People

Follow me on…In 1987, my wife and I lost our daughter Michelle when she was only one week old. That was a profound, life-changing experience for both of us. For one thing, it led me to become a writer. Over the years, much of my writing has focused on grief and tragedy, and how God […]